This morning, I got an email.
“Oh, you’re going to laugh, not just at the funny clothes you wore, or how naïve you thought the animals were, or by the unrecognized angels in your midst. But at how close you were when you thought yourself far, how much strength you had when you thought yourself weak, and how easy life was when you thought it hard.”
For all the virtues of an increasingly more tech-heavy world, one detriment stands out among the rest: our perception of reality is skewed. We line and insulate our sphere of influence with people who affirm and agree with us. We put more value on how things appear than how they feel. But more than anything, our concept of what it means to be successful – what it means to be okay, even – is inflated, and this is why.
When our algorithms are showing us an endless feed of people who seem to be thriving in such specific ways – they’re wealthy and beautiful and smart and have perfect açai bowls for breakfast – it starts to look as though everyone who is doing anything important has a very perfect looking life.
One of the unspoken things that society determines at any point in time is what it means to be “successful,” and it’s usually on a sliding scale. That is to say, everything is an upward and downward comparison, and when we are consistently seeing very little that we could compare down to, suddenly everything we do seems… not good enough.
A few years ago I wrote an article called “20 Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think You Are,” and since then, 7.3 million people have shared and read it, and countless writers have copied or riffed off the headline. It seems clear that this is something a lot of people are feeling.
Lightening your standards won’t deflate your drive, it will propel you forward.
Think of all the people that you love in your life, and ask yourself if you love them because of what they’ve “accomplished,” or how nice their Instagram is. There’s a saying that we’re all innocent children deep down inside, and if you can try to see that innocent child in everyone, you’ll remember that we don’t love a kid because of how much money is in their piggy bank or how nice their school pictures turned out. We love them because we do.
The same is true of your life, and the same is true of you.
You don’t have to be everything, all the time. You don’t have to do anything perfectly. The biggest thing standing in your way is the idea that you have to do it all, and be it all. You don’t have to look like a model and think like a tech entrepreneur and budget like an accountant and dress like a blogger and take pictures like a photographer and be as happy as a self-help guru and be a productivity hack machine. Your dinner doesn’t always have to be nice enough to take a photo of, you don’t need to consume exotic and trendy things. Your home doesn’t need to be staged for a photoshoot, and your every outfit doesn’t need to be worthy of an #OOTD.
If you can do any of those things, even one or two, well enough – you’re doing pretty okay. And even if all you could do was wake up and smile and make something to eat and get through the day, you’re doing pretty okay, too.
You get to decide what your “success story” is, and you shouldn’t cheat yourself by just trying to fix every part of your life until you’re flawless.
Success is a feeling, not an elevator pitch. It’s not something that is conveyed with a status update or some pretty photos.
It is only what you decide it is, and choosing to run yourself to the ground trying to be the best at everything steals your life. It makes your goals something you appear to be, rather than what you are.
If you like our content help us with a share… or two …
Also - I have some free stuff for you .......
Nr 1. In This FREE Report you can Discover:
Secrets to acquiring the freshest, hottest leads via YouTube In-Stream ads quickly and easily! Best secret tips for the most effective targeting for your ads! Totally legal, but little-known method for literally stealing traffic from your competitors! Get more traffic to your videos and landing pages without spending a fortune! And much more - all within this special FREE report!
Nr 2. Did you know you can Absolutely EXPLODE YOUR EMAIL LIST FOR FREE with UNTOUCHED offline sources?
Nr 3. The #1 secret to becoming an affiliate superstar - Earn your first $100 online – without a dime to invest.
If you’re still looking to “make it online – I have just the thing for you. It’s a video series that shows how to make your first $100 online – even if you don’t have a dime to invest. Yes – nothing. Free. Nada. Is this possible? You bet. It’s the most powerful system used by those “in the know”. Good things don’t have to be difficult. And they don’t only come to those who wait. Have A Look
Nr 4. Top 10 Email Marketing Mistakes. Which of these mistakes do you make?
Nr 5. You can learn about : The hottest social networking site that will send an unlimited stampede of traffic to your site - for FREE! How to quickly locate a swarm of hungry buyers using "information portals"! The fast and easy way to use simple images to siphon targeted traffic, on command! Learn how to get the most possible traffic from Instagram, and make sure that traffic converts! And much more ...
Nr 6. It’s no secret… Facebook is an incredible place to get tons of free, viral traffic. But… most people are going about it all wrong. How many of these mistakes are you making? Download the free report to find out.
Nr 7. Special free report . It's called "Operation Midas Touch" and you can download it here...
The report features a surefire method for generating at least $1000 per week online,without a website or product of your own!
Nr 8. Instagram is still one of the hottest ways to get a LOT of traffic fast. All by sharing images. Sounds easy enough, yeah? Well, yes and no. If you want to really start driving a lot of traffic and making sales using Instagram then you should download this report.
Nr 9. When it comes to creating a product online there are so many ways to approach it. Wouldn’t it be great to just get the meat of it all so you can get started faster? Well, the good news is, today you can download a guide called the Product Creation Formula Quickstart Guide. It’s as the title suggests - a Quickstart guide. You’ll get a list of action steps to take right away. Download your copy today !
Nr 10. Would you like to finally USE all of that dusty PLR you have sitting around on your harddrive? Or maybe find the resources for the best PLR available - at the best prices? What about how to use that PLR to make you money with just a few minutes of work. Well, you’re not going to want to miss this!
Nr 11. Buzzfeed’s top post has more than 21 million views. Think about that for a sec… ONE of their articles has had over 21 million people who have read it! And they have thousands of articles... what would you do with that kind of traffic? A friend of mine hacked their method and was able to use it to get 11,592 targeted new subscribers in 2 weeks on their very first attempt!
Nr 12. Push notifications are one of today's hottest trends in website traffic and conversions, and for good reason. Studies have shown that as many as 40% of people will opt-in for push notifications, which is about TEN TIMES the rate of people who opt-in for emails! That’s huge! Not only that, but they're also highly effective at pulling clicks, as well. Some studies have shown CTR at an average of around 40%, with highs of as much as 80%! Again, that’s huge!
Nr 13. Would you like to know how to get more money from the exact same number of website visitors you’re currently getting? Even if you’re website is getting as few as 1-2 visitors a day, this report will show you how to increase your profits using these few handy hacks.
Nr 14. People have now realised that it's not the size of the list which matters, it's the quality. ... and the only way to create a quality list is by launching your own products. Let it be $7 ebooks, $17 info products, $27 video training product or software's... all of these work. My good friend Kevin Fahey has is revealing how he's launched over 20 products in the past 4 years, many of them top sellers. Needless to say he's banked a handsome amount in this time.
Nr 15. Do you ever feel that the man you like or even love, just doesn't see you or desire you in way you want him to? Or... maybe you're able to get a man's attention though not the right kind of attention? Or... maybe you're still single because you wait and wait for men to approach you first? What you may not know is that the way we flirt will either attract the "wrong" man for us or the "right" man.
Nr 16. When it comes to getting sales and leads online, there is ONE thing that 95% of marketers use... it's called a LIST. My friend Jimmy just released a free book that explains WHY a list is important and how YOU can build your own list. It's available right here (and it won't cost you a penny)
Nr 17. If you have tried everything, and still aren't able to get your Ex back, then you need to pay attention.
Nr 18. What if I told you that you could make ANY woman WANT to do ANYTHING for you? Would you think I'm crazy? Well... what If I told you that you could also make her LOVE every minute of it and come back for more?
Nr 19. I have a special free plugin for you today. It's called "Covert Hover Mini"
This plugin will triple your blog traffic by compelling your visitors to share your images on social media. This is some really clever stuff and it works like a charm. After you grab your free plugin, don't forget to read the free bonus report as it will show exactly how and why this strategy works like crazy.
Nr 20. The days of being able to get away with a basic WP theme and a pic or two are gone, your site needs to look good. Even Google are looking for you to have engaging graphics on your site. But getting good quality graphics made for your site is a pain, AND it will cost you both time and money (if you outsource it). But I have a special free download for you today. A virtual treasure chest of over 21K profit pulling graphics you can start sing today to generate more traffic & sales!
Nr 21. 20 professional full HD background videos. These background videos are perfect for giving your videos that extra kick they need to stand out from the crowd Oh yeah they are in full 1080p HD too, I hope you'll enjoy them.
Nr 23. No doubt, you've seen all of the video launches lately! There is a reason for it... Video marketing is a GREAT way to make money, and with the recent creation tools making it super accessable for anyone to get started... It's no surprise that more people are making videos. However... there is a missing element to most video marketing products...
Nr 24. For the first time ever... You can get the straight scoop on how someone is selling over $1,000,000/year of t-shirts on Facebook!Use them .... and have fun !